In the build up to World Mental Health Day 2025, we want to share some guidance from Young Minds on strategies for if ‘your child is finding it hard to talk’.
Sometimes, your child might find it hard to open up. You might know that something’s bothering them but keep hearing ‘I’m fine’. Or when you ask questions, they might shrug, say they don’t know, ask you to leave them alone or walk away. Lots of parents go through this at some point and it can feel hard to find a way forwards.
If your child is finding talking tough, try some other forms of communication, like:
Texting or writing to each other:
This can be over text, WhatsApp, email or letter.
Using codewords or emojis:
For example, they could WhatsApp you a sad-face emoji to let you know they’re having a bad day. Some parents have found that choosing a neutral and random codeword to signal a bad day works too. They can message, say or write this word down when they need to.
Making cards to help them ask for what they need:
For example, they could have a card with a picture of going for a walk on it, or one for watching TV together. They can give or show you these cards when they want support but it’s hard to talk.
If things are feeling really stuck
Sometimes a child or young person just isn’t ready to talk, no matter what you try. It doesn’t mean they’ll feel this way forever. But it can be really upsetting as a parent. You might feel like you’re being rejected. But it isn’t about you. Lots of people find it difficult to open up when they’re struggling. Even though it’s tough, try not to step back or shut down. Make it clear that you’re still there and you’ll be ready when they are.
Here are some strategies parents have found helpful:
- Encourage your child to speak to someone else
- Give them information they can look at in their own time.
- Stay visible and present
- Watch TV or films together
- Focus on talking as a whole family
Further information and helplines/online chat can be found at YoungMinds.org.uk
